Most people who will ever make a decision to follow
Christ, will do so during the critical years between
the ages of 4 and 14. —Dan Brewster, Compassion International
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Our Mission • • • • •
| Strengthening families and empowering parents to pass the faith on to their kids
and mobilizing the church to equip them.
At the National Center for Biblical Parenting we're on a mission to reach the next generation for Jesus Christ. And what is our vehicle? It's not missionaries. It's not even the church. Those are great supports, but the primary vehicle for the evangelization of the next generation is the family.
We're on a mission to bring about a revolution in families around the world. We need to help parents, grandparents and teachers turn away from the regular use of behavior modification and embrace a new way.
- We need to train parents how to parent their child's heart. We start by praying that the Spirit will work in the hearts of our children transform their selfish hearts. We want to see young people develop internal convictions and a heart for God. The result will be strong character rather than external righteousness.
- We need to help parents embrace their role as the primary disciple makers in their home. With the church in support, parents need to learn how to successfully pass the faith onto their kids.
We want to bring this revolution to the families, churches and schools.
The Need • • • • •
1. The family is under tremendous pressure today.
2. Churches today are looking for strategic ways to equip parents.
Dan Cathy, President of Chick-fil-A, says we need "a wake-up call" in the forward to Dr. Tim Elmore's book, Generation iY: Our Last Chance to Save Their Future. He says we need a "dose of reality" concerning the challenges facing Generation iY. Dr. Jean Twenge and Dr. Keith Campbell describe these challenges as a Narcissism Epidemic. Most people agree that a dramatic culture shift is taking place today, yet many pastors, teachers, parents and other leaders have not grasped the critical importance of addressing this issue without delay. Our failure to do so will leave the leaders of the future ill prepared for the world they will encounter.
Dr. Elmore describes the children of Generation iY (especially boys) as "Lost in Neverland." He identifies 6 reasons for this reality including online activity, inappropriate teaching methods and damaging parenting styles. He looks at a number of damaging parenting styles, but I want to focus on what he calls "Commando Parents." As you know we've been working with churches and parents for almost 25 years now. We have discovered that even parents who are serious about the discipline of their children have been "confirmed to the pattern of this world" (Romans 12:2) when it comes to education and parenting. The predominant approach to kids today in education and parenting is behavior modification. We have Ivan Pavlov to thank for this. In the early part of the 20th Century, he discovered a very effective approach that has helped many people change destructive behaviors. It is also effective in training animals, but it is doing severe damage to a generation of children.
Behavior modification uses rewards to get someone to change their behavior. It is effective, but there's a cost. There's a cute new movie out about parenting called Parental Guidance. Billy Crystal and Bette Midler star as the grandparents who have to take care of their grand kids for a week. They can't get the youngest child to follow their instructions so Artie (Crystal) resorts to bribery. (rewards for good behavior) The first time, it's $5.00, the next time $10.00 and finally he offers $20.00 for his grandson's silence about a little mishap. It's humorous, but it illustrates the point.
Behavior modification works because it appeals to the selfishness in our hearts. Most of us are inclined to do something when we get a reward for doing it. The repeated use of this approach actually feeds and nurtures the selfishness in the heart. It's another factor that's contributing to the development of what Dr. Twenge calls Generation Me. We are growing a generation of children who act the way we want when they get something out of it, but have no ability to be internally motivated to do what's right on their own. They have more information and options than any generation in the history of the world, but less internal fortitude and character. They want instant gratification and don't know how to work hard toward a worthy goal. They are also growing depressed and discouraged as they reach their 20’s.
Our Strategy• • • • •
We run parent training events every week around the country. Parents come when there is a crisis in their family or a personal friend convinces them to come. Most parents are so busy and distracted that they don't recognize the “urgency” of the condition described above. They need a vision of what they’re children can be – adults with internal convictions, a heart for God and strong character rather than external righteousness.
We've been very effective with a significant, but limited audience. We need to expand our reach and raise the “urgency quotient.” Busy parents need to understand the critical need for a shift from a behavior modification approach to a heart-based approach. It is urgent that parents make changes now in order to impact their children’s future. The future of our children is at stake.
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